Without a doubt, identical and fraternal twins must be seen as individuals, each with his or her own strengths and challenges. Respect for the twin bond―a deep attachment―is critical, because undermining the twin relationship will confuse young twins, leaving them unprepared for interacting socially at school and in after-school activities. Twins need to revere their …
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Parents of multiples often call me in a state of panic or confusion. “My twins are so different from the other children at school and in the neighborhood. They rely on one another so intently. And then they fight like cats and dogs. What is wrong with my twins? What am I doing wrong?” I …
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In 2012, I wrote Alone In The Mirror: Twins In Therapy. I have received so many many phone calls from twins who cannot seem to get along with one another as adults even though they are successful in their careers and have their own children and families. Huge screaming matches and personally antagonistic and hateful …
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